Visitors' Reflections

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Andrew - December 2022

I have just returned from my first visit to the Loyola Kapepaladi and Manvi schools, and the surrounding villages where the children live. It is hugely motivating to observe the contrast between the environment in the schools, where the children and students are provided with smart uniforms, work happily and hard in safety with wonderful caring and dedicated teachers and staff, and the harsh, often cruel reality of day-to-day life in the villages. There we find extremes of poverty, crumbling infrastructure, lack of some basic needs and opportunities, all of which continue to hold back and oppress the Dalit community. I have visited many of these people in the villages and have been invited into their homes, where the warmth of welcome and generous, spontaneous hospitality is utterly remarkable. I have witnessed the brutally hard-working day that Dalit workers endure without respite. It is not at all unusual for women to toil all day in the fields (often picking cotton) in intense heat, and then walk miles to get home where they will fetch water, prepare food, wash clothes, and sometimes walk miles again, to obtain some necessary provision. The roads leading to the villages show no signs of much needed improvement and it would be easy to imagine these people feeling broken, embittered by neglect or exploitation, hopeless and isolated. This is emphatically not the case. In every village I met friendly, resourceful, resilient people with a strength of spirit which is quite outstanding and humbling. So often I felt that these folk who have nothing were giving me far more than I could give them. They win and deserve the deepest respect and admiration from those of us who have the privilege of meeting them.

On such a visit, one gets the chance to observe, close-up, the fruits of the work of 'Supporting Dalit Children' which has so admirably identified and prioritised vital needs. Just some examples which can be explored further on the website are: the Tailoring school and tuition centre, the clean water project which takes this vital commodity deep into the heart of the villages, the Pannur Health Centre next to Kapepaladi School, which now has a new, well-equipped ambulance to navigate the rough and rocky roads! It is impressive how the Charity, working closely with the magnificent Jesuit Fathers and Sisters, has identified where help is most needed, and acted immediately to provide practical solutions, commencing the long journey to lasting improvement. This requires positivity, patience, strength of purpose and clear vision, all of which exist in abundance. We all want to do more. It is impossible to visit these communities without being inspired, uplifted and filled with a kind of joy that is hard to express or explain.

Finally, EDUCATION, without which there would be little hope. The teaching at Loyola Kapepaladi and Manvi Schools is delivered by truly dedicated, caring staff, again, with a focus on what needs are most pressing. I leave the most memorable and overwhelming source of joy and hope until last; THE CHILDREN! Here I have met the most magnificent, beautiful, open-hearted and life affirming childen I have ever met anywhere. They are eager to be kind, to be friendly. They are keen to learn and demonstrate great aptitude and potential in their studies. They are considerate, polite, and possess a confidence that is humble not hubristic. Living in extremes of poverty where good health and adequate nutrition cannot be assumed, they are high spirited, energetic, and gloriously playful. It is fun to be in their company. They are the future, and if they are given the opportunities they so richly deserve they will shine. The future for all of us will be brighter. I give any future visitor this warning; these children will change your life, they will win your heart, and leaving them to return home will be an experience you will never forget. In wanting to improve their lives, we find that, without even trying, they have improved our lives in ways that are deeply significant and enriching.

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Kate - December 2022

When my dear friend Siobhan invited me to visit India to see Dinah’s charity, Supporting Dalit Children, in action I knew I had to go. I was kindly given a week off work by my employer, and on 30 November 2022, with hope in my heart, I stepped off the plane in Hyderabad.

Nothing could have prepared me for what happened next. Seven unforgettable days that have changed my life forever.

I travelled with my friends Dinah and Siobhan, and Andrew and Dhiren who we met at the airport for the first time and got to know during the trip. We became a team, all very different but very much united in our bid to find out as much as we could about the Dalit community and how we could help.

Our welcome reception in Manvi by the students at Loyola College, the Xavier school children, the Jesuit Fathers, sisters and all the teachers was extraordinary. There was so much celebration, clapping and joy to see us, especially Dinah, who they all know has helped to create an educational lifeline for them all.  The sea of smiles never stopped the entire week. From the classrooms in Manvi and the Kapepaladi village school to the after-school tuition centres and tailoring schools in the poorest villages - we were always welcome with open arms and huge hearts.

It was incredibly moving for us all to meet our sponsor children. Dinah had thoughtfully arranged for us all to visit our children in their homes on the Sunday when they were not at school. It was such a privilege for me to meet 11-year-old Pooja and her sisters in their family home. She was understandably very shy at first and spoke very little but never have the words “thank you, thank you” meant so much.  And over the next few days I was able to spend precious time with Pooja in her lessons and during playtime and we got to know each other a little bit and make a connection I hope will last a lifetime. There is no doubt that the sponsorship money we give every month is helping these children have a phenomenal education and English-speaking skills that will give each child the chance to have a childhood and their families a more secure future. But what is just as important to them all is that they know we care about them and although we live on the other side of the world we are thinking about them and that they matter. They are anything but “untouchable”.

The poverty is startling, malnourishment is rife and there are so many problems to overcome, but every day we saw hope and kindness in abundance from a team of devoted people working tirelessly to find solutions and give all the children a chance in life.  Nothing exemplified that more than Noble Raj who told us he went from “cow-grazing boy to schoolboy” at age 11 when he joined the Kapepaladi School in Year 6. He couldn’t speak English or read or write but he worked hard and after completing his education and Degree in Manvi, he moved to Mangalore University to take his Masters’ Degree in Commerce.  He is now, aged 25, a lecturer in all Commerce.  It was so inspiring to hear Noble Raj talk about his experience after he travelled hours across India to come and see Dinah and show his gratitude. His parents invited us all into their simple home. His mother cooked us an incredible lunch and the whole family gathered to thank us all for coming. As they kept shaking our hands and warmly embracing us, Noble Raj said: “Please keep coming back.”

It was so very hard to say goodbye to this extraordinary community so rich in kindness, generosity and love. A good education is a human right and I hope to help Dinah as much as I can to achieve her mission in India and encourage others to do the same.  We saw first-hand how the students who are given the chance to be educated, can flourish and grow both physically and mentally. Their laughter, beautiful smiles, spirit and determination, in spite of all the problems they face, will live long in my memory.  If you have the chance to go to India and visit the places Dinah and her team are working in - go and be prepared to take hundreds of selfies! If you can’t, please be assured that every pound you donate to Supporting Dalit Children is desperately needed and never wasted.  Merry Christmas to you all! Kate X

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Siobhan - December 2022

Along with 3 other sponsor parents, I accompanied Dinah on her trip to Manvi. Meeting Bheema (the 11-year-old boy I sponsor) was an absolute highlight for me. I felt we had an instant connection. He is a thoughtful and sensitive boy and conversation was easy as his English was so good. Tragically, Bheema’s father died suddenly from a sudden heart attack a couple of weeks ago - he was only 36. He leaves behind his wife and 3 sons. We went to visit the family at their home and pay our respects which was incredibly moving.

The following day I joined Bheema in his lessons at Kapepaladi School. He is clearly a bright boy and he was right to be proud of the written work he showed me. Bheema normally stays in the school hostel (a boarding house) as this enables him to study with the proper facilities. He is travelling into school daily at the moment so he can support his mother but he will return to the hostel shortly. I was so reassured by Father Ashwin’s commitment to check up on Bheema to ensure he is ok. After attending lessons with Bheema, I spent the rest of the morning with Sister Leena in the Health Centre learning all about the services they provide. They are available to help the community with medical needs 24/7. The main illnesses they treat are typhoid and dengue fever. Clean drinking water is essential to reduce typhoid and the charity has bought a tractor and water carrier which goes out to the villages. At the health centre I saw a little girl being given an injection of antibiotics to treat typhoid. Sister Leena mentioned they are having to contend with three “quack” doctors in the village who are not educated or medically trained. The sisters frequently have to treat villagers suffering side effects from the inappropriate and often dangerous “medicine” they have been given by the quack doctors. I was also given a guided tour of the new and well- equipped ambulance. The ambulance was purchased by the charity.

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Chris C

Once back from my trip to Manvi as a sponsor parent, it didn’t take long to realise that I wanted to return - something about the place and the spirit of the people gets under your skin. It is true that travel changes your psyche - a slight shift in your perception of the world, and a better understanding of your place in it. The horizon had broadened – and there was a place in deepest rural India that I felt I wanted to get to know better.

I now wrote to my sponsor children Vijayalaxmi and Ashok as friends and knew something of their daily routine and way of life. Vijay was the bright sparky girl who had captivated me in January, and Ashok my sponsor child of three years who had been working for the family in the fields and eluded my initial attempts to meet him - but eventually was brought back to the school through the compassion of the Fathers. There was so much about the complex pattern of life for these children to understand, and I had just scraped the surface.

Dinah was planning to return in November, and I was to accompany her together with my eldest daughter. Katharine had just turned 21, and I wanted to show her the schools and experience life in the villages. We flew in to Hyderabad where we were met by Father Rohan and Father Vinod, and also met Father Maxim, the new principal of the mission who was to be our main guide around the villages over the next fortnight. We set off in two jeeps, and as I had the unsettling experience of sitting in the front seat next to a very tired driver, hurtling through patches of thick fog, I didn’t get much sleep on the fivehour journey! After a rest we were welcomed by a short programme of dances, singing and comedy sketches at the hostel, then a very good and much needed night’s sleep under our mosquito nets.

The next morning we visited Xavier School, and began our two weeks of interaction with the classes, and visits to the villages. When in the school it is quite literally a different world for the children. But they were so proud to accompany us to their homes and introduce us to their families, where we saw the reality of daily life for the Dalit people. There were two distinct elements to the trip; visiting the schools, full of life, noise and fun, and visits to the villages, where we, as three independent women, had a unique chance to converse with the villagers and find out first-hand what life is really like, their hopes, fears and expectations.

I hope to share with you here my reflections of life for Dalit women, taken from my experience of visiting their homes, sitting and talking with them, sharing their food, meeting their children, and listening to their songs.

We were always accompanied by children from the hostel, giving them a chance to visit parents who they may only see once every few months. There are various and complex reasons why children may live away from home. To illustrate I remember a young girl called Shirvala. She had taken my hand all round Chimblapur last time, and was one of the first to come up to me after we arrived. On this visit I learnt that her mother is a former Devadasi (Temple Prostitute) who lives in Chimblapur, but has to work in the fields in the harvest season or go to Bangalore working in the construction industry. As her mother is away from home so much, Shirvala lives at the hostel where she is thriving.

The Fathers knew that Katharine was particularly interested in the cotton industry. Studying for a degree in Retail Management, it was a rare opportunity for her to understand the “grass-roots” production of raw materials for the clothes we take for granted and expect to buy so cheaply. They kindly arranged for us to visit Hulligunchi, where most families are involved in cotton. It was harvest time and had been a bumper season; however abundant crops lower prices, so the farmers store it until the market price improves. On the road, we saw workers waiting to be picked up with their huge bales of cotton wrapped in blankets, some workers walking with the bales on their heads, others sitting on top of the cotton that had been packed onto lorries. We also saw weighing machines in the field, the workers waiting their turn to be paid by the Landlords for the weight they had picked.

Some Dalit families own their own land, passed down through the generations, and sell the cotton at market in Raichur directly. In Hulligunchi we met such a family who work in their cotton fields until after the crop is sold, and then travel to Bangalore to find work. The whole family go to the city leaving behind only the grandmother and great-grandmother to look after their house.

The women work on the construction sites as well and leave their children in an area of the site behind sheets erected in the hope of keeping them safe. Finding work word–of–mouth, they send their earnings back to the village.

We saw cotton piled high in spare rooms; in other places it was left outside the house under blankets to protect it from the dew or unexpected rain which can render it unsaleable. I was initially shocked at the thought of women working on building sites, but found that this is common.

On our visit to the new school being built in Pannur we also met women labourers, one carrying a mix of stones and grit on her head to another, who then sifted it using a brush-like tool. We also met women construction workers in Sindigi, Father Eric’s new parish, who had their children at the site. Playing at the almost completed building, with so many dangers to our eyes, it was hard to look. The children seemed to have an inbuilt sense of danger, with the older children taking care of the babies and toddlers.

We were shown around Hulligunchi by some of the older students – Pradesh took us to meet his family which includes three sisters-in-law who all work in the fields, each with a very young baby of under four months, from nine to seven, stopping at two o’clock for a half-hour lunch. They leave their young babies with their great-grandmother.

Every time we set out in the jeep we would see groups waiting by the road side, and passed lorries packed full of women, legs dangling off the back or standing holding on to the sides, being taken as coolie labourers to the fields. It is cheaper to employ women as they only need to be paid R150 compared to a man’s daily wage of R300.

We also went to Father Eric’s new parish for a short stay. It took the best part of a day to get to Sindigi, via the historical city of Bijapur and a stop at a convent for refreshments. Despite the unscheduled stop, we were made so welcome by the nuns. The convent was incredibly tranquil after the restless traffic on the road.

Distances were immense – but we loved the travelling as the journeys at harvest-time were an education in themselves. Katharine became expert at taking photos through the window!

We were able to see all stages of the rice cycle, from flooding the field to the young lime-green shoots emerging, to the rice being harvested, then dried and sifted as young men and boys waded through it using their feet to turn it over in the sun.

We could barely pass the over-loaded hay lorries, having to close the windows to prevent being covered in the stray stalks! All along the roads we passed men and women carrying immense piles of sticks, straw, and also weeds from the fields used for animal feed. Many young children were herding goats and buffalo, or encouraging the oxen to walk languidly with their loads. The crops of the Manvi area, rice and cotton, changed gradually to sugar-cane, maize and surprisingly, sunflowers, with huge fields reminiscent of the south of France.

We visited two of the villages under Father Eric’s care, along with social workers helping the Dalits to improve their lives. In the village of Asangihalla, we listened to the woman’s group’s plaintive singing of songs they had composed about the hardships they face in life. One song was about a woman who was cheated by a landlord, promised one rent price and then charged another. The singing is spontaneous and heart-felt. These groups or Sengats are an important source of strength and companionship and a hope of a better life.

We sat alongside the group and through Father Eric’s 4 Villagers in Shirashgi Ajay and his grandmother, Sagar Camp interpretation, discussed their problems, including the merits of educating girls. As another woman passed by, she asked the Dalit women “why are you telling them your troubles – ask them what their problems are!” At that moment I didn’t think I had any problems to speak of.

The atmosphere in the second village, Shirashgi, was heart-rending. There was a power-cut, not unusual as electricity in the villages is so unreliable, and we sat and talked in the dark. The boys bought us raw sugar cane which we chewed – a sweet watery taste, very refreshing. We had seen boys chasing lorries along the road trying to snatch some of the sticks! After listening to some songs from the children, the Sengat group told us of their lives.

There were two particular illustrations of their problems I recall as they were so in contrast with our expectations in life – one that they had opened a bank account with the help of the social worker – and had chosen a leader to learn how to make a signature. They had had enough of being made to sign with a thumb print – a symbol of their illiteracy and a way to remain downtrodden. Although they barely own enough to feed their families, they hoped to save a little and it would be used in times of extreme hardship to help those most unfortunate. Although so poor themselves, they wanted to be able to help others. I realised that I had rarely seen pens and paper and books in the houses unless bought home from school by the children – such is the extent of illiteracy in the villages. The other point came to light when one woman opened up to us about her married life. Each night, as is common for many women, after working and preparing a meal, she would be beaten. She finally decided she had taken enough and ran away. The only place to go was her brother’s house, however on arriving at his door-step he turned her away, such is the shame bought on a family by leaving your husband, no matter how he treats you. For her the Sengat is providing shelter and security.

We visited many more villages during the next week, all with their own character and memories. At Sagar Camp, we had agreed to go to Majula’s mother for lunch; however every house we visited was adamant that we ate something! We had at least some sweet chai and biscuits in each of the seven houses so not much room left! We did try to encourage the families to feed themselves and not us. We met Ajay and his grandmother, who had brought him up since he was two following the death of his mother. She passed us photos of his parents, framed and treasured. It was hard to know what to say.

At Jagar Jawalladinni, we met Vijayalaxmi’s parents, together with her little brother who was recovering from chicken pox. He had just recently started at Xavier school and was a popular boy with lots of character. Vijay’s mother had prepared a delicious meal, including battered chillies! We found the best way to counteract the pungent spices in the cooking was by eating fresh buffalo curds. I was able to talk to Vijay’s parents about the importance of her education, and how she was getting excellent results and had the potential of attending Loyola College. However her father explained that as they are so poor, he could not say whether he could pay for her education in the future – hopefully with their support and sacrifice and our continued help as sponsor parents we can enable this generation to fulfil their potential.

This village had recently been treated to the construction of government toilets, and it was quite unusual to be asked to try the toilet facilities. A tiny finger curled round the rickety door holding it in place for us, and afterwards held out a pail of water and a towel for our hand-washing.

I was eager to return to Chimblapur. I knew that Ashok had been attending school regularly since my last visit and he greeted me after the first morning’s assembly. I had heard however that he had helped his family on the odd day with the cotton harvest – maybe that was why he wasn’t in the jeep to accompany us. We went to his house and I met his mother and grandmother – his mother recounting to me the events of our last visit in minute detail – I was glad that the attention given to him meant so much to her. As luck would have it, as we were returning to the school, at the corner of the road, the boys started shouting and there was Ashok with his father, empty sacks slung over their backs after a day in the fields. We stopped and chatted through the window. A couple of days later we sat on the steps to the college and spent about an hour just chatting, about life in India and Britain, his progress at school, his grandmother’s health, and his hopes for the future. A couple of day’s wages in the fields could earn money to feed the family and I know he is studying hard as well, so there has to be some concession to the pressures of earning some extra wages.

At Rajal Bandi, we watched the shiny new sewing machines being stacked up on a tressle table close to collapse, and then gave them out to the girls who had completed their tailoring course and were ready to earn a living making new clothes and doing repairs as seamstresses for the village. The whole Dalit community was in attendance, and clapped each proud student as they collected their new machines. In Rajolli, we were led through the village behind the beating drums to their welcome programme, where I had to give my first speech – rather terrifying! Here the dancers were solo or in couples, shyly entering the stage from a house but soon dancing enthusiastically, and, something we had not witnessed before, some of the audience ran up during the dancing to give them a few rupees for their efforts! Rajolli was the first village to benefit from the Tailoring Programme. We met the 6 Parents and Grand-parents talking to us in Ayannur Preparing the evening meal, Hulligunchi Former Devadasi singing in Ramathnal sewing teacher in her house and one of the new tailors proudly showed us the dress she had made. The Dalit women in Ramathnal are a community of former Devadasi, and an example of how the Fathers have worked to help them and their children form a life after their experience in the temple. They have a strong group, but are currently suffering with little money to feed themselves as work in the fields has become scarce after the harvest season. Although it was outlawed in the 1980’s, the Devadasi cult still exists. We saw the temple where some girls are taken after puberty and ceremonially taken into prostitution. The temple priest takes their virginity, and then they sleep with the high-caste villagers for a price. When they become pregnant they are thrown out, and few men will accept them as partners. It is so hard for us to grasp the concept of allowing a daughter to enter into a life of prostitution and hardship, but a family may be persuaded that it is a great honour to give up a child to serve the temple. The Fathers are working to educate the families to prevent this happening.

There were many more memorable moments. We received beautiful garlands, lit candles for the pujas we received from the welcoming women in the villages, and were adorned with bindis on our foreheads, the red paste dropping on to our clothes.

The hectic schedule of visiting the villages meant there was little time for reflection whilst in Manvi, and even the best of resolutions to keep up my diary and note the day’s events each evening was broken. Once back in the UK and living our privileged life with all its trappings and diversions, the memories embedded and I gradually realised that I had had the most invaluable experience of seeing the reality of life in poverty and witnessing first-hand the plight of Dalit women. Without education, they will be forced to remain illiterate and live a downtrodden life. Simple things we take for granted they must do without – the lot of a Dalit woman without a toilet in the house is to go to the fields before sunrise and wait all day until after sunset to go to the fields again. Even when a woman is pregnant, her body must cope with all this. Then there is the washing to do, often in the river, and all the meals to prepare; before the children go to school she is cooking on an open fire over sticks collected from the roadside. And after work she cooks again for the family. During the day she will perform the same work as a man, even when she has a tiny baby, either as a coolie in the fields, or on a building site.

On our village visits we had many discussions with the menfolk about the overriding dilemma of whether it is even worth educating girls – despite it being a fundamental human right - as the cultural norm is that a woman’s destiny is early marriage and a family. Together with Father Maxim, we tried to persuade the men of the value of educating girls, and listened carefully to their arguments. We discussed with some women, parents of pupils at the school, how they wished their lives had been different if only they had been given the opportunity for education. There is the problem of the dowry – which can chain a family to debt for generations. Drink is a huge problem, with the men often alcoholics. The cheap spirit Arrak has been banned in Karnataka; however we saw an illegal outlet in Pannur. It is a sad fact that along with alcoholism the men are prone to commit suicide as a way out from the struggle of life, leaving their wives with the lonely burden of bringing up and feeding a family.

I have incredible respect and admiration for the women I met. They have an immense sense of pride, overwhelming generosity, and an inner strength that I marvel at. They are expert cooks, always perfectly groomed, loyal to their children and their husbands. They have a great sense of community and value the family, sometimes four generations all supporting each other. With little access to transport, they will walk for hours - to the fields, to the river for water for boiling in the cooking pot, or to wash clothes, and when necessary to hospital. There is a real sense of pride in the home, even when the government-built floors and toilets are in real need of repair.

The Fathers, with boundless energy, enthusiasm and compassion, are undertaking a programme of education in the villages, helping to improve all aspects of life including health and hygiene, the environment, the importance of study, leadership, and overcoming the influence of superstition. As more girls are educated, they will have the facilities, wisdom and confidence to stand up to the inadequacies of life suffered by their mothers. We can help them in their struggle by supporting Xavier and Loyola Kapepaladi Schools, and now Loyola College, where the first generation of confident girls are achieving valuable qualifications that we hope will give Dalit women the promise of a different future.

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